The seven-year itch is a term used to describe the decline in relationship satisfaction that occurs when a couple has been together for a while- typically around the 7-year mark. Most couples, no matter how happy they have been in the past, will experience at least a brief period of dissatisfaction within their marriage, and it can be pretty tough! However, the seven-year itch doesn’t have to spell the end for a couple – there are lots of ways to put the magic back into your relationship, recover the same happiness you had in those early years and have a long and happy marriage. Here are some of them:
Rekindle Your Friendship
Most great relationships started as great friendships too, and if you want to rekindle the kind of happiness you had in the early days, you need to spend more time doing what best friends do like you did back then. Start going on movie dates, telling jokes, hitting the bars and enjoying mutual hobbies together again, and you might just feel that spark returning.
Remember the Little Things
It’s often the little things that can make or break a relationship, so if you’re looking to overcome the dreaded seven-year itch, you might want to start making those little gestures of love that were so common in the beginning, but are now pretty rare, again. Things like sending flower, surprising him with a romantic weekend away or simply kissing her before heading off to work in the morning can all go pretty far towards repairing a dwindling romance.
If your relationship is going through a rough patch, it can be all so easy to start arguing about the issues instead of sitting down and talking about them calmly, but that is only likely to inflame the situation and make it worse. What you should do is sit down and agree to discuss your problems as rationally as possible, each listening to the others’ point of view and doing what you can to understand each other better.
Many couples who are experiencing something akin to the seven-year itch find that christian counseling or couple’s counseling can really help because discussions are less likely to descend into arguments when there is a neutral third-party present and because counselors can help them to see things in ways they may not have thought of before. It might feel uncomfortable speaking about your problems with someone you don’t know, but if you’re struggling, do give it a try!
If you have done something wrong, and you know that has negatively impacted your relationship, if you really believe that your marriage is worth fighting for,you’re going to have to suck it up and admit what you did was wrong. So many couples will go to great lengths to try and be right, destroying their relationships in the process! Don’t be like them.
Have More Intimacy
Last, but not least, if your relationship has lost its spark, why not try increasing your levels of intimacy? Spend more time kissing, canoodling and enjoying each other’s company in that way and don’t be afraid to try new things. It could work wonders!