Separate Beds: Victorian or Victorious? Picture here
Even the mere mention of a couple sleeping in separate bed tends to raise eyebrows. People immediately think that things aren’t going well, or they’ve had a major falling out. However, rather than it being because of a problem, or as an ode to Victorian values of days gone by, sleeping in separate beds can be advantageous. Read on to find out more about this phenomenon.
Obviously, the major benefit of sleeping in separate beds is that you get a much better nights sleep. That means not having to listen to your other half snore and grunt their way through the night. No having to put up with the light from their phone that they insist on using till 1 in the morning, and no bruised ribs or impromptu wake ups from when they thrash around while sleeping.
For many people, this sounds like bliss, and it’s worth bearing in mind that sleep is so important that we spend a third of our life doing it. In fact, the quality of our sleep has recently been linked to crucial health issues such as weight loss, mental health, and physical fitness. All critical elements that affect our overall wellbeing. Something that means if sleeping in separate beds gives you a better night’s sleep, it may also have a long-term positive effect on your life.
Lack of intimacy
Sleeping in separate beds isn’t without its detractors though. In particular, the main argument is that it can negatively affect a couple’s intimacy. Perhaps with one partner feeling a little neglected or left out. This is, of course, an important issue as your sleeping arrangements need to work for both parties and improve your life and wellbeing, not drive a wedge between you.
That is why many couples opt for a super comfortable double, king, or even super king size bed like the ones available from Hypnos Beds as an alternative to sleeping separately. That way they still get maximum comfort and support but also get to cuddle up with their other half before they go to sleep.
Rock your own style
Still undecided on whether separate bed could be for you? Then consider this last advantage. If you have separate beds, you can easily have separate rooms. Something that allows you to decorate them as you wish and to your own personal style.
That means if you love Cath Kidston style floral designs, but your other half is much more into 70’s retro you can both have your dream bedroom. All without infringing on each others sense of style and identity.
Other people’s opinions
A very wise man once said that other’s opinions of us are none of our business, and I’m inclined to agree, especially when it comes to sleeping arrangements. However, I can see that it might be difficult for couples to admit they have separate beds in separate rooms.
Luckily, this issue is easily solved as all you need do is have double (or bigger) beds in each room. Then no one will know whether you are spending the entire night in separate beds or not. Something that means you can avoid outside judgment while providing a real lifeline to the permanently exhausted.