Relationship Goals: Coping With The Implications Of A Life-Changing Accident or Illness

The fact of the matter is that you never ever expect something awful to happen to you – or your loved ones. Bad things happen to other people, not you. However, the scary truth is that every single day, bad and unexpected things happen to good people. In the blink of an eye, a normal day can turn on its head and change your life beyond recognition. 

 

If you have the bad luck of being involved in a life-changing accident or suffering from a serious illness that has come with long-lasting implications, you may be wondering what the impact of this will be on your relationship, and how as a couple you can move past what has happened and build a sustainable future together. 

 

While things may be strange right now, the good news is that there is always a way to move past what has happened. Yes, it might be hard to see a future right now, but you can have one, you just need to understand what it will take to move forward. Bearing that in mind, below are some ideas to help make moving your relationship and life forward, after a life-changing or serious illness, a little easier. 

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Be patient, take your time 

 

One of the most important things when it comes to coping with a life-changing injury or illness is to be patient with yourself and your partner. Change is hard to adapt to, especially when it’s such an unexpected change, so don’t rush the adoption process, take things slow. Understand that perhaps, for a while at least, your relationship may need to be a little different, but that’s okay. Say, for instance, as a result of your accident or illness, you’re now wheelchair bound, a change like that isn’t one that you can simply move past right away. You need time to process what has happened, and so does your partner. 

 

Accept the change 

 

The next step is to learn to accept the change and what has happened. Say, for instance, you were involved in a terrible car accident which caused a brain bleed and has left you with significant memory problems. Accepting the fact that you need more support from your partner isn’t easy. For your partner, accepting the fact that you require more support is also difficult. Big changes like this can have a damaging impact on a relationship, which is why it may be worthwhile seeking some professional support to help you both accept, and adapt to, the changes within your lives and relationship. 

 

Focus on the future

 

One of the most important factors when it comes to recovery from any accident or illness is making sure to focus on the future, rather than dwelling on what could have been. It’s important to focus on the positives of your situation, such as the fact that you’re still here, because the sad truth is there are 56,800 fatalities in a single year linked to serious accidents – that’s a scary statistic. You might have to adapt to a new way of living, but the fact is that you got lucky because you’re still here. 

 

It’s not easy adapting after a life-changing accident or illness, but with the right support system in place and a caring partner, it is possible to lead a full and happy life.

When It’s Time To Let Go Of A Relationship

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Relationships are hard, even when you meet the right person. However, this doesn’t mean that being in a relationship with someone has to be more of a struggle than it’s worth or make you unhappy more than you are happy, so how do you know when you should give up on a relationship and when it’s worth fighting for? 

 

Slow Down

Take your time, and don’t let yourself be ruled by knee-jerk reactions. You need to take your time, go slow and think about what you really want and how you really feel. 

 

Talk To Others

You might not want to talk to people you know, some people may not want to get involved, or you might want to speak to a stranger. Have a look online at forums or read real-life stories such as these from the Serratelli Law Firm, you may be able to relate to some, and it may help you with your thinking. 

 

Reflect On Why You Got Together In The First Place

It’s essential to look at when you got together in the first place and what it was. Look back at what situation and location you were in your life at the time and what was going on. There could be several reasons why you are with your partner, and they might not necessarily be the right ones. 

 

Break Your Routine

We all know what it’s like to get stuck in a rut, so it’s essential to look at your relationship and see what things do you do for each other because it’s a habit and what do you do because you care and want to do it for the other person? If you break your routine, then it’s easier to see this and to look at your relationship from a different perspective, almost an outsider’s point of view – but not quite. 

 

Determine If Your Past Is Impacting Your Present

It can be hard to let go of the past, and while you think you have done, it has a nasty way of coming back to surprise you at times. When you’re with someone for a long time and spend a lot of time with them, it isn’t straightforward to realize your behavior and how you might be acting towards your partner. It’s essential to reflect but also to know if things are still bothering you from the past and if it has had an effect on what is going on now. 

 

How Hard Have You Both Tried?

The key to knowing if it’s time to move on is to take a look at how much each of you has tried. Is your partner trying to correct their faults? Are they willing to take responsibility for fixing their side of things? And you as well, are you looking at what you have done and taking responsibility for your wrongdoings? What are you doing to correct your faults? If you think you have both done everything you can to salvage the relationship, then it might be time to let go.

 

Ultimately, when you know, you know, but it is a big decision, and it is good to make sure that you have considered everything that will help to remove any doubt you have in the future.