How to Help Your Kids Through a Divorce

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Divorce isn’t easy for anyone. When there are children to think about as well, this can make it even more difficult. Children may not understand exactly what is happening or why it is happening, and you want to do the best you can to help them through this scary and challenging time. If you have no idea how you can help your kids through this situation, try not to worry too much. We have some ideas below to provide you with some helpful information, so you can figure out the best way to help your child through this.

 

Both Parents Should Still Be Involved

Your child loves both of their parents, and even though you and your partner have decided not to stay together, it doesn’t mean that your children should not be able to see one of their parents just because one parent can’t stand the other one. It is important to remember that both parents have the right to continue to spend time with their child. If one parent is not letting the other parent see their child, for example, a mother is not letting the father see the child, then there are resources that can help with father’s rights.

 

How to Tell Them 

Having a conversation about your divorce with your children is not going to be easy, but it is something that has to be done. In terms of what to say, it will vary depending on the age of the child. You will want to be open and honest about what is happening. Another good idea is to have both parents present when you are telling them about it and to make sure that you tell the child that it is not their fault as well as preparing them for the idea that there will be changes.

 

Helping Kids After You Tell Them

After you have told your children what is happening, you want to be prepared for what to do next. Children can react in many different ways to the news that their parents will no longer be together, but make sure you let them know you are there for them and that whatever they are feeling is ok. You also want to convey to them that they can talk to you about what is happening when they feel that they are ready. They may have questions for you, so you also want to prepare for this possibility. Finally, make sure to let your children know that this is an ongoing conversation, so they won’t feel scared to bring it up again or ask more questions if they think of others later on.

Throughout the divorce process, things such as trying to keep a consistent routine and continuing to support your children are essential. If, in the divorce process, you end up having to go through a custody evaluation, you can look into resources to find out helpful information for going through that process. Remember that although this is a difficult situation, you will get through it.

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When It’s Time To Let Go Of A Relationship

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Relationships are hard, even when you meet the right person. However, this doesn’t mean that being in a relationship with someone has to be more of a struggle than it’s worth or make you unhappy more than you are happy, so how do you know when you should give up on a relationship and when it’s worth fighting for? 

 

Slow Down

Take your time, and don’t let yourself be ruled by knee-jerk reactions. You need to take your time, go slow and think about what you really want and how you really feel. 

 

Talk To Others

You might not want to talk to people you know, some people may not want to get involved, or you might want to speak to a stranger. Have a look online at forums or read real-life stories such as these from the Serratelli Law Firm, you may be able to relate to some, and it may help you with your thinking. 

 

Reflect On Why You Got Together In The First Place

It’s essential to look at when you got together in the first place and what it was. Look back at what situation and location you were in your life at the time and what was going on. There could be several reasons why you are with your partner, and they might not necessarily be the right ones. 

 

Break Your Routine

We all know what it’s like to get stuck in a rut, so it’s essential to look at your relationship and see what things do you do for each other because it’s a habit and what do you do because you care and want to do it for the other person? If you break your routine, then it’s easier to see this and to look at your relationship from a different perspective, almost an outsider’s point of view – but not quite. 

 

Determine If Your Past Is Impacting Your Present

It can be hard to let go of the past, and while you think you have done, it has a nasty way of coming back to surprise you at times. When you’re with someone for a long time and spend a lot of time with them, it isn’t straightforward to realize your behavior and how you might be acting towards your partner. It’s essential to reflect but also to know if things are still bothering you from the past and if it has had an effect on what is going on now. 

 

How Hard Have You Both Tried?

The key to knowing if it’s time to move on is to take a look at how much each of you has tried. Is your partner trying to correct their faults? Are they willing to take responsibility for fixing their side of things? And you as well, are you looking at what you have done and taking responsibility for your wrongdoings? What are you doing to correct your faults? If you think you have both done everything you can to salvage the relationship, then it might be time to let go.

 

Ultimately, when you know, you know, but it is a big decision, and it is good to make sure that you have considered everything that will help to remove any doubt you have in the future. 

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