It’s Time To Stop Letting People Take Advantage Of Your Good Nature

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Being a genuinely nice person is something that should be celebrated. Sadly, there will always be a number of people ready to take advantage of you. Worse still, it’s likely that you’ve allowed them to get away with it for far too long. Now is the time to put an end to those problems.  

 

Your first step is to identify the biggest culprits before taking the necessary steps to prevent any further problems. Here are four examples that deserve your full attention. 

 

1| Friends & Family 

 

Admitting that a loved one is taken advantage of you is tough. However, a little honesty goes a long way, especially when followed by a commitment to stand up for yourself. 

 

Knowing when a relationship needs to end can be very liberating. Other examples include spotting a sibling or friend that borrows money and asks for favors without offering any in return. Essentially, any friendship or relationship should be mutually beneficial. 

 

As you get older, you appreciate the fact that quality is far greater than quantity. A small circle of people that enrich your life is the answer. Every single time. 

 

2| Employers 

 

Your employer is the person that gave you the opportunity to earn money. As such, it’s natural that you may let the odd mishap slide. But you must not ignore mistreatment. 

 

This can manifest itself in many ways. Whether it’s pursuing action after a work injury or seeking your entitled holiday leave or overtime pay doesn’t matter. Having the confidence to ensure that you are treated fairly in all situations will unlock huge rewards. 

 

Another example is when you aren’t getting paid a suitable fee. A little research will show what people in your role expect to get paid. Don’t be afraid to seek the raise you deserve. 

 

3| Companies 

 

Most businesses will be quick to correct mistakes when it works in their favor. When it works in yours, though, they are often far less willing to make a noise. So, you’ll have to do it instead. 

 

Service providers often sell excessive packages. Run a broadband speed test. Check your 4G usage. Understand whether your existing home insurance packages have you covered. This info will allow you to contact the suppliers and seek a customized plan to suit your needs. 

 

If a company is unwilling to budge, don’t be afraid to take your business elsewhere. After all, the existing company clearly isn’t that interested in your best interests. 

 

4| Colleagues 

 

Colleagues can take advantage of your good nature in many ways. One of the most common, though, comes from stealing your ideas. You must not let this happen. 

 

Computer tech allows you to make a record of your ideas and input. Do this privately, and be ready to fight injustice when they try to take credit for your work. Or if you run a business, you should use copyrights to protect your innovations. Allowing others to profit is not an option. 

 

There are plenty of additional situations where strangers can take advantage. Whether it’s at work, on the road, or at your child’s club events, stamp it out. You are strong.

When It’s Time To Let Go Of A Relationship

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Relationships are hard, even when you meet the right person. However, this doesn’t mean that being in a relationship with someone has to be more of a struggle than it’s worth or make you unhappy more than you are happy, so how do you know when you should give up on a relationship and when it’s worth fighting for? 

 

Slow Down

Take your time, and don’t let yourself be ruled by knee-jerk reactions. You need to take your time, go slow and think about what you really want and how you really feel. 

 

Talk To Others

You might not want to talk to people you know, some people may not want to get involved, or you might want to speak to a stranger. Have a look online at forums or read real-life stories such as these from the Serratelli Law Firm, you may be able to relate to some, and it may help you with your thinking. 

 

Reflect On Why You Got Together In The First Place

It’s essential to look at when you got together in the first place and what it was. Look back at what situation and location you were in your life at the time and what was going on. There could be several reasons why you are with your partner, and they might not necessarily be the right ones. 

 

Break Your Routine

We all know what it’s like to get stuck in a rut, so it’s essential to look at your relationship and see what things do you do for each other because it’s a habit and what do you do because you care and want to do it for the other person? If you break your routine, then it’s easier to see this and to look at your relationship from a different perspective, almost an outsider’s point of view – but not quite. 

 

Determine If Your Past Is Impacting Your Present

It can be hard to let go of the past, and while you think you have done, it has a nasty way of coming back to surprise you at times. When you’re with someone for a long time and spend a lot of time with them, it isn’t straightforward to realize your behavior and how you might be acting towards your partner. It’s essential to reflect but also to know if things are still bothering you from the past and if it has had an effect on what is going on now. 

 

How Hard Have You Both Tried?

The key to knowing if it’s time to move on is to take a look at how much each of you has tried. Is your partner trying to correct their faults? Are they willing to take responsibility for fixing their side of things? And you as well, are you looking at what you have done and taking responsibility for your wrongdoings? What are you doing to correct your faults? If you think you have both done everything you can to salvage the relationship, then it might be time to let go.

 

Ultimately, when you know, you know, but it is a big decision, and it is good to make sure that you have considered everything that will help to remove any doubt you have in the future.