A good relationship can be one of the most wonderful things in the world. Finding that one person who you connect with more than anyone else is a feeling that nothing else can quite match. Of course, pretty much any adult knows that, when it comes to relationships, things generally aren’t all sunshine and rainbows every minute of every day. The truth is that relationships can be a lot of hard work much of the time. That being said, there’s a big difference between a relationship that takes the same level of work as any other and one where it seems like things really aren’t working at all. If you find yourself in that kind of situation it can be really upsetting. After all, having to look at a relationship and acknowledge that things aren’t really working can be an incredibly difficult thing to do. However, it’s an essential step if you want to start making improvements in both your relationship and your life. With that in mind, here are some of the signs that your relationships just might not be working.
You’re holding each other back
One of the hardest things for a lot of people to realise that there doesn’t need to be anything “bad” in a relationship for it to not be quite working. You and your partner could both be wonderful people who care a great deal about each other and work to support each other wherever you can. But that doesn’t mean that you’re always going to be on the same path in life. Perhaps one of you is unable to embrace their career to the fullest because of the other’s circumstances. This is a situation where you either need to find a way to create a sense of balance between those two things or make the hard decision to walk away.
You argue all the time
The occasional disagreement is pretty much an essential part of any relationship. It’s just a natural result of two people spending a whole lot of time together. However, if you and your partner find yourselves arguing all the time the point that it devolves into screaming matches, that’s a sign that something is wrong. A lot of the time, an argument is often about something completely different than it might seem. The only way to get past this is to sit down and try to figure out what the emotional core of the situation is. Until you do that, you’re just going to keep going round in circles.
Sometimes it’s not a matter of having a problem with your partner but that, no matter how much you might care about each other, you’re leading each other down a bad path. Everything from an unhealthy lifestyle to things like substance abuse, if you and your partner are indulging in one another’s self-destruction, that’s a serious problem. From couple’s drug rehab to counseling sessions, there are plenty of options available to you. However, sometimes the best thing you can do for both of you is just to get out of that situation and walk away entirely.
You’re being mistreated
Of course, not all of the issues in a relationship are quite as two-sided as these previous examples. The truth is that your relationship might not be working because you’re not being treated as well as you should be. If you find yourself constantly walking on eggshells out of fear of setting your partner off, if they make you feel smaller and lesser than them, or if you’re actually afraid of them, those are clear signs that you’re not being treated the way that you should. If that’s the case then, as hard as it can be, walking away really is the only option.
One of the most important things to remember is that there’s no hard and fast rule to deal with any of these things or any part of a relationship for that matter. The truth is that it will always come down to you and your specific situation when you’re trying to find some way to deal with any problems that you might be having. Remember that there’s nothing wrong with reaching a point where all you can do is just walk away. But it’s also just as important to remember that no one who is on the outside of your relationship can make that decision for you. Sure people can give you incredibly useful advice but, in the end, the only people who can make the choice of what to do about your relationship are you and your partner.